Bragging Kids

 Kids will sometimes gladly talk about how smart she or he is or all the things they can do better than their friends, such as drawing, reading or spelling. But for experts, bragging is normal. Kids are trying to figure out the differences between themselves and others, so they measure their talents, accomplishments, and materials possessions against those of their peers. Use these tips below to help limit your child’s “I’m awesome” talk. 

• Show and tell

Many 5 and 6 years old kids don’t really understand what word brag means or why they shouldn’t do it. Start the conversation by explaining what bragging is and why it can be hurtful. Try to tell them, “Bragging is when you talk about all the cool toys you own or how you can do something better than your friends. It can make people feel bad because they may not have the same toys or be able to do things the same way you can.”

Try reading books like “Well, I can TOP that!” , by Julia Cook, or “I’m the best”, by Lucy Cousins. Or, role-play different scenarios and ask your child “How do you think?” or “How would you feel” This can help your child identify bragging and understand how it impacts everyone involved.

• Watch your words

Clearly, kids follow their parents’ lead. So practice humility and resist comparing your child with others kids or siblings. That’s not to say you can’t praise your child; however, constant “Good job!” compliments can become meaningless over time and cause children think they deserve feedback about everything. Instead, be specific with your praise and emphasize effort rather the end result.

• Focus on the goal

A child with healthy self-esteem makes himself feel good, whereas a boastful child rely on the feedback of other to give himself a boost. So, if you hear your child bragging, think about what he trying to accomplish.